This time last year I was about to venture into one of the scariest things I could possible imagine- university. I was nervous about almost every aspect of it. A cocktail of worries about the course, my flatmates, moving out and keeping up my relationships from home. E V E R Y T H I N G. But here I am a year later, with barely a scratch.
I am here to tell you that it’s going to be fine. You will probably under or over pack. You will probably embarrass yourself terribly. You will probably lose contact with one of your best friends and you will probably fail a test. But you will also learn about who you are, who your true friends are, what you’re interested in and of course learn to really appreciate your bed at home.
I think the main thing to remember is to enjoy yourself and do what YOU want to do whilst you’re there. I think there is a lot of pressure to join particular societies and behave in certain ways. You are going to meet people that drink crazy amounts, take drugs and kiss strangers every night. You don’t have to conform to that. I went to university in a stable relationship and with a secure group of best friends. All my relationships have improved because I feel more mature. That’s kind of what happens at university. You grow up. Which sounds boring, but actually it’s incredibly not boring.
What I’m saying is, you can buy extra pants if you run out whilst your there. Yes it is perfectly acceptable to sit in your room watching 3 series of Dexter on Netflix, whilst eating a packet of biscuits rather than going on a crazy night out. It is also okay to not make loads and loads of friends. Just go with the flow and you’ll find your feet. You will meet a lot of idiots who will seem incredibly immature- ignore them.
There will also be tricky bits and low points. Just make sure you look after yourself and reach out for help if and when you need it. There is also the possibility that university won’t be for you! This is perfectly fine. Society expects a lot from us. But it’s okay not to be sure what you want to do and it’s okay if you change your mind. There is no rush and you will find your path eventually.
When you get there, fill your time with getting to know interesting people,exploring new places and something which is almost always forgotten about, WORK HARD.
You’re there for your future. Remember that.
P.s bring a box of chocolates, a bottle of wine and a pack of cards- your flatmates will appreciate it.